The last few weeks, I have faced the reality of separation, one of its highest levels. I have lived with a milder idea of separation, but death seems to be one of the most ultimate instance of separation. No more to have and hold your loved one in this lifetime. Sometimes unresolved issues between you and a loved one remain; they leave you hanging with regret, draining your hope of ever solving it in your lifetime. Now, I am beginning to understand that death truly has a sting. A sting that could leave many unsettled and even steal their sanity.

This was not the first time I have been acquainted with death, the death of a loved one. The thought of not being able to converse or see the person ever again till I am here on earth, is like a deep cut that bleeds for hours. I thought it would be difficult for me to write this, but then I focus on how my dealing and hopes of dealing with it might encourage someone going through the same. Many use the phrase, misery loves company. However, my endeavour is to use my misery and turn it out into something productive for me and for others. How one may ask?

I take you back to the cross of Christ. There lies the depth of dealing with separation. A victory over grief. An overcoming of loneliness and separation. Before I continue, would like to point you to:

…. a Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him. Surely He has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; yet we esteemed Him stricken, smitten by God, and afflicted.
But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; the chastisement for our peace was upon Him, and by His stripes we are healed.

-Isaiah 53:3b-5

This old prophectic chapter that talks about the future death and resurrection of Jesus, has a lot of revelation in it. Some deep meat to chew on for those of you seeking God’s truth. Herein, we see that as much as Jesus was God, He felt all that a man would feel. Sorrows and grief, He knew them or was acquainted with them. He not only felt it, but bore it for you and me. So, we don’t have to deal with it and carry it every day of our lives. I have come across people not willing to let go. Their lives are a perpeteul picture of agony. That is not what we are called to be like. Yes, cry, be sad, grieve, but not for long. You need to surrender it to Jesus, focus on the victory over grief on the cross.

Many picture God as one who watches all of us cry and is not moved by it. Some even say He laughs at them. Oh you got it all wrong buddy! He is. What other way to figure out His true nature than turn to His Word, which talks about nothing more than His nature.

You number my wanderings;
Put my tears into Your bottle;
Are they not in Your book?

– Isaiah 56:8

He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.

-Revelation 21:4

 Don’t lose heart. Don’t worry or fret. Don’t be anxious. Be at peace!  This is what God wants for you.

These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world. 

-John 16:33

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

 Philippians 4:6-7

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you

-1 Peter 5:6-7

He cares for you. You are important to Him.

Consider the ravens, for they neither sow nor reap, which have neither storehouse nor barn; and God feeds them. Of how much more value are you than the birds? And which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? If you then are not able to do the least, why are you anxious for the rest?

– Luke 12:24-26

But the very hairs of your head are all numbered.

-Luke 12:7


 I leave you with a prayer that you all who have read this would be comforted as I have been.

Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself, and our God and Father, who has loved us and given us everlasting consolation and good hope by grace, comfort your hearts and establish you in every good word and work.

-2 Thessalonians 2:16-17